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I know we’d all like to have a beau for the holidays to snuggle up and eat good food with. But unfortunately, relationships don’t always work out. The timing may be off, individual priorities might get in the way, and the two of you just might not be compatible. If you feel like you’re relationship can’t get out of a rough spot, you might want to consider breaking it off or taking a break before any holiday drama seeps in. The holidays are a time of joy, love, and family and shouldn’t be tarnished with bitter feelings. Here’s a quiz you can take if you feel like you are on the verge of a break-up. Saying that breaking up is hard is definitely an understatement. It can be very stressful and emotionally taxing. But if the relationship wasn’t healthy, then separating is necessary in order for you to move on. You might think that you’ll never find someone to love again, but trust me, you will. But don’t run out and try to find a replacement or “rebound guy,” just take things one day at a time. If you start looking towards or thinking about next week, next month or next year, you’ll feel overwhelmed. Don’t look at the broader picture yet – temporarily limit your view
If you’re having a hard time getting over someone, don’t wallow or spend time obsessing over “what went wrong.” The only way to move on is to let it go. Go out with girlfriends, male friends, go anywhere – but just get out of the house. Pretend you’re enjoying yourself and eventually you will. Try to be careful about being “friends” with your ex. If you are both mature enough to remain platonic, then more power to you. But I know of too many situations where the “friend/ex” thing became a problem for future relationships. Ask yourself if it’s worth it, and brace yourself for any drama that may come. Also be careful of your ex taking advantage of you (i.e. for sex or to get with one of your friends). Keep yourself and your health (mental and emotional) as your top priority.
Breaking up is the beginning of new transition in your life. It’s easy to look at an experience in a negative way, but look at your separation as a new beginning — a real chance for finding your Mr. or Ms. Right.