Share

From Nightline over the holiday:

My initial thought is to recommend to not overthink the situation. While Steve Harvey has an interesting point about trying to find a companion as if you’re picking out a car, I think the one piece of advice that keeps coming to mind for me is the misnomer that being married is about you.

The definition of love, in my eyes, is when someone else’s priorities come before yours. The foundation of a relationship is trust, trust that your partner understands that sentiment. To equate finding a mate like an acquisition akin to achieving a degree, getting a position, buying a car, buying a house, or making a certain amount of money highlights the issue more than one admits.

I understand the need to have these things. It creates a sense of safety and comfort that all people associate a marriage to be. I’m sure one has a big house and a big car, then nothing can go wrong. Why would we argue about money? Why would be worried about what other people think of us? Why would anyone get in between us if I have everything and so do you?

To that, I say read typical marriage vows. Slowly. Then re-read them again. Wait, I’ll post some for you.

To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ’till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.

So, what is the answer?

Re-read them again.